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Ponk · **Posted:** Sat Aug 27, 2011 9:30 am

I was orignally going to try and make a joke, but after actually reading the topic; Good luck.

WhatILacked · **Posted:** Sat Aug 27, 2011 10:19 am

Ponk wrote:

I was orignally going to try and make a joke, but after actually reading the topic; Good luck.

Well thanks for the lack of the joke

And yes shelton we took the test last night, hence why i wasn't online. It came out positive im going to be a dad. We have spoke about it and we are going to keep it, to begin with she was upset but we started speaking about it and quickly she started to look at the positives now we are both happy with the idea

She's around two months pregnant.

ads126 · **Posted:** Sat Aug 27, 2011 11:19 am

Congrats i dont know what to say and glad she has gone through the positives.

Im happy for you man. Your ok, right?

shelton9778 · **Posted:** Sat Aug 27, 2011 11:32 am

congrats from me as well

Ponk · **Posted:** Sat Aug 27, 2011 11:35 am

Glad it seems good

WhatILacked · **Posted:** Sat Aug 27, 2011 5:28 pm

Yeah im alright

Seth · **Posted:** Sat Aug 27, 2011 6:01 pm

Well, I thought my advice would help here, since I have been there.

I was 15 years old (just shy of 16) when my son was born. As a youth, I was very rebellious and lacked any care for consequence to understand the depth of what could result from my actions.

It indeed hit me like a ton of bricks when it happened, and totally screwed up my high school career. I ended up having to quit school to support my son, and it was a long, hard row to sew for sure. I ended up going back to school later on, and getting my diploma after working in construction for some time. In the end, it panned out. Just took me longer to get there.

In the end though, it turned out alright. Here I am 32 years old now, and while I would have liked to have all of the freedoms my friends had coming of age, I love my son dearly and cannot imagine what life would be like without him being there. My son is 16 now, and learning to drive, and chances are I will be 37 and having a drink at a bar with him at some point, shooting a game of billiards.

What is important to remember is that no matter what, you have cut your childhood short a bit. It is time, in the event that a child is brought into the world, that you man up and do what is necessary to make this child's life safe, secure and happy.

Take it from me, it is going to suck for a while, but the sooner you come to terms with having to grow up, the better it will be for you, her and the baby.

Stand up and be a man bro. Thats pretty much all there is to it.

If you choose to play as the adults do, then you had better be prepared to live as an adult as well when consequence knocks on your door!

Good luck bro! I hope you will make the right choices from here on.

shelton9778 · **Posted:** Sat Aug 27, 2011 6:05 pm

no one could have put it better

WhatILacked · **Posted:** Sat Aug 27, 2011 6:15 pm

Seth wrote:

Well, I thought my advice would help here, since I have been there.

I was 15 years old (just shy of 16) when my son was born. As a youth, I was very rebellious and lacked any care for consequence to understand the depth of what could result from my actions.

It indeed hit me like a ton of bricks when it happened, and totally screwed up my high school career. I ended up having to quit school to support my son, and it was a long, hard row to sew for sure. I ended up going back to school later on, and getting my diploma after working in construction for some time. In the end, it panned out. Just took me longer to get there.

In the end though, it turned out alright. Here I am 32 years old now, and while I would have liked to have all of the freedoms my friends had coming of age, I love my son dearly and cannot imagine what life would be like without him being there. My son is 16 now, and learning to drive, and chances are I will be 37 and having a drink at a bar with him at some point, shooting a game of billiards.

What is important to remember is that no matter what, you have cut your childhood short a bit. It is time, in the event that a child is brought into the world, that you man up and do what is necessary to make this child's life safe, secure and happy.

Take it from me, it is going to suck for a while, but the sooner you come to terms with having to grow up, the better it will be for you, her and the baby.

Stand up and be a man bro. Thats pretty much all there is to it.

If you choose to play as the adults do, then you had better be prepared to live as an adult as well when consequence knocks on your door!

Good luck bro! I hope you will make the right choices from here on.

Very true words, i was going to continue education but i cant now obviously. Im getting a job to support her and the kid, we're both going to suffer for a bit because we have some serious saving to do.. but we will pull through it in the end i know we will.

Thanks for your advice and heart warming story Seth it is appreciated.

Seth · **Posted:** Sat Aug 27, 2011 6:48 pm

My pleasure dude. I really didnt have anyone to let me know how it would go, as no one I knew was in the same boat as me before. All of the uncertainty was the hardest part of it.

I figured I could share how things turned out on my end as an example. A sort of 'light at the end of the tunnel', ya know?

Again though, the most important part is realizing that the things you do now can no longer be for yourself. If you do not have a rich family that can float everything for you as you finish school, then you are going to have to face the reality that schooling is likely going to have to take a back seat, at least until you can establish yourself financially. Once you got the ball rolling with employment and stability, it is relatively easy to find local adult education programs no matter where you are.

Even so, you will be pulling double duty. There were many a' day where I would get up > go to work > leave work to go to school > get home pass out > repeat process.

It is not easy, but if you do what you know you need to do, then there will be satisfaction for you in the end as you look back on it and know that you did everything you did for the child, and that is good.

I won't get into the difficulties of parenting a teenager :lol:

but suffice to say that if you do your job right, then it will also be satisfying to know that you raised a good, stand-up, compassionate, loving and selfless person.

Again, good luck. If you would like any further advice on how to handle things, just let me know

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