Idk I view alliances differently alliance is made by the players to help the players all do well.. So they help the alliance because it's helping all of them do well.. It shouldn't be the other way around.. Maybe that's just me though..
It is. An alliance is a group of people that play together, and if it happens, die together. Leaving an alliance because you don't want to get conquered shows you have no loyalty whatsoever to any alliance, and Just from reading this thread I know for a fact many players will never attempt to recruit you.